Love in its form is particularly speculative.We consider or rather make it very complicated in day to day life. We think its really cumbersome to deal with.We have just one life to love and hate the choice is ours.As stated by many philosophers love has no bar on anything in this world.It sees no condition and just float in its own way.
Me being a remarkably emotional person has undergone tremendous lows and highs in love.On the onset i would like to quote few lines which are noticeably practical but disdain always. keeping these lines in pocket, may help you flourish in your life (Es ply Love)
- "Love reminds you that nothing else matters."
- The space between your heart and mine is the space we’ll fill with time "Always"
- You never lose by loving Someone. You always lose by holding back. "So whenever in Love just express it"
- It is a curious thought indeed, but it is only when you see people looking ridiculous, then you realise just how much you love them.
- Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own.
- Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get from your beloved, its only with what you are expecting to give ; "which is everything."
- We come to love not by finding a perfect person but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
- Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says ‘I need you because I love you.’
- If you have to think about whether you love someone or not and if the answer is no ; "When you love someone you just know it anyhow, your instinct tells you, no matter how much u avoid"
- I love you the more in that I believe you had liked me for my own sake and for nothing else.
- When women love us, they forgive us for everything, even our crimes; when they do not love us, they give us credit for nothing, not even our virtues.
- Life has taught me that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction
- There is no surprise more magical than the surprise of being loved. It is God’s finger on man’s shoulder.
- When I look into your eyes, it’s like falling in love all over again "An example of true love"
- Love: A temporary insanity curable by marriage " Max times its not "
Hey Shivi, I read your piece in its entirety; my view is that most of us by love feel a false sense of being able to control others. In LOVE with a wrong person can suck optimism and serenity right out of you. So how do we stay away from emotional vampires? Such dampeners do more than drain your physical energy, they can make you believe you're unworthy and unlovable or can inflict damage with smaller digs at your self-esteem/self-worth.
ReplyDeleteMany of us who make the choice in life which may be called LOVE by by common acceptable norms/definition coz we have been compelled as we believed it worked just fine for others or coz of socio economic pressures, but for whatever reason feels artificial and restrictive to most of us who choose LOVE instead, and for many LOVE is just a “choice,” but a social norm we subscribe to without freely considering alternatives or its pros cons.
But I think we have to ask ourselves whether we’re truly leaving behind the constraining aspects of LOVE or paying the price for succumbing to society as a whole—if we simply replicate constraining conditions in our relationships. It is difficult, certainly, to see beyond the negative view of humanity we’re constantly presented with. But it is worth considering that every hierarchical, oppressive social condition—from racism to patriarchy to imperialism, and so on and so forth—has thrived to a large degree on the argument that as a general rule, people must be constrained and controlled and repressed in order for society to function.
If we want a path forward out of an oppressive society, we have to learn to trust that as human beings we are capable of loving to one another when given full autonomy and freedom. And while it might be quite a long road to travel before we reach that point, our most intimate personal relationships seem like an excellent place to start……
Yes the question arises to us indeed...whether we're actually loving or constrainig ourselfs or just making our emotions pay for.
DeleteSpreading love and feeling it is eternal, but yes to expect practically is insane as you're right " how do we stay away from emotional vampires?"
Tough we Human's 're bound to love. Y cant love be unconditional which is the pure form of it.
Nothing can be unconditional; consequently nothing can be free is a school of thought . Love is comprehensive as there are no boundaries; uncompromising as nothing can dilute love and unconditional as reality is almost irrelevant to love and has scant impact on it. Love stems from the human wish to overcome our basic limitations. Compromises, moderation & a Catalyst which makes it happen is love which in my opinion should be beyond all concepts of wrong doing & right doing….as such concepts is nothing but Notion…
ReplyDeleteI agree ....there are so many thing to jot and so many personification exists of love which can not be rendered and executed. Everyone has there own notion of being loved and to love.
ReplyDeleteLoving and being Loved, these days are on surface level....
ReplyDeletewooo goes with people perception and notion on it.If we are true to ourselfs and our heart allows ...DONE